It’s never too late to introduce an extra element in the bedroom, especially if your sex life with your partner is starting to lose its spark. However not every toy is right for every person, which is why we’ve put together a list of tips to help you introduce that extra element of excitement for you and your partner.
Don’t Force It
It may sound obvious but insisting on the idea when your significant other has shown a clear distaste for the idea won’t get you anywhere. If there is no mutual interest at first, delving into why the idea makes them uncomfortable and finding ways to address that can lead to progress.
Delve Into Each Other’s Tastes
If you’ve had the basic talks about introducing toys, have a little talk about what toys excited you both, what sensations you’re interested in, and how you want to take your play time to the next level. Maybe your partner already has a toy you don’t know about or has heard a couple things about a certain piece from someone they know. Furthermore, as each relationship is unique emotionally, they are also unique physically, so you may want to try out a new toy by yourself and introduce it after you’ve taken it for a test ride (pardon the pun) or hop in the deep end together and enjoy the excitement of trying something new as a couple.
One toy may stimulate someone perfectly, hitting all the right spots in all the right ways, but for your partner, that may not be the case. If you find you try one toy and only one person is enjoying it, that may not mean that toys just aren’t for them, but rather that a selection of a couple toys is right for the both of you. Opening the dialogue opens more room for exploration, which leads to that other worldly orgasm you’re both chasing.
As with all toys, do your research, don’t go for the cheapest option, and don’t push your partner past their limits. The internet is full of websites to scour for information and demonstrations on a range of different toys. From the sedate
Most Importantly, Have Fun
Keeping the mood light keeps any anxiety at bay, it takes weight from the situation. At the end of the day this is an exercise in improving your sex life, making those fun nights even more fun, so have a laugh when things don’t go all that smoothly, when things are backwards or handcuffs fall off. Stay safe, have fun, and enjoy taking a dive into the wonderful world of sex toys with your partner.